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  1. OneBeing
    The fact that a lot goes on either in a different language or off camera on RLC leads to a lot of guessing, speculation and potential misinterpretation of what is actually happening. That's why it's nice to actually hear from Octavia directly and there is absolutely no indication that she has ever not been straightforward and honest…but then everyone will have their own opinion. I tend to agree that moving forward to find a life partner and starting a family will be something that will happen outside of the environment she is currently in and which seems about to change anyway...we'll see. Remember, she only started this to see what it would be like because she felt she would regret not trying it if she passed on the opportunity. It definitely feels like things are starting to shift at this point. Time will tell. Nobody knows ahead of time what they will do in any given situation once it actually happens (no matter how “confident” the thinking mind might be) so predictions about where her life (or anyone's for that matter) will go are just musings based on thoughts about the future which are unreliable. If you think long enough you will get every side of every story. Once events actually occur you will see how often what you thought about never comes to pass. Prepare, do your best, and then see what happens. There will be a lot less stress and anxiety if you don't try and cling to a particular outcome or force an issue rather than going with what is actually happening and adjusting accordingly.
  2. OneBeing
    Thank you for your post. I went back to check out the conversation and it was really fun and interesting. It was very nice to hear a bit more about her background and what she is thinking about and pondering for the near future. Just more proof that she is intelligent and capable….no matter how many times she needs to take her drivers test. 😝 A couple of things jumped out for me. Yes, I can understand why her coach told her it might be better to make plans for the future before she goes back to see family but making plans that far in advance is really only an exercise that is done before things actually happen and the things that end up happening might not have anything to do with what was planned. It is fine to make plans, just don’t get too attached to them or any potential outcome for that matter as outcomes are not in our control. It is OK to just not know what is going to happen. I read something once that stuck with me. It is said that God never gives you the ticket until you are on the train. To me that means trust where life is taking you even though you may not know exactly where that is until it is actually unfolding. If you are willing to not know then life is full of surprises. But don't just throw caution to the wind. Take care of practical matters along the way. As has been said in the east: Trust in God but tie up your camel.🐪 The other thing is she said she spent a lot of her childhood alone. I don't believe that. There must have been a chicken and a bear around there somewhere. 😁 I have to admit I enjoy watching her interaction with her growing family. I also have a feeling that when she was little they were all she had to turn to at times so I understand how they can still give her comfort.
  3. OneBeing
    It is interesting to me to hear Octavia talk about herself and her life because I like her as a person and am genuinely curious about what she thinks and what she does. I have come to the point where I care about what happens to her. She has a unique personality that is reflected in the way she goes about doing things. So many of her mannerisms and her quirky behavior are very appealing due to the fact that they are spontaneous and real…at least prior to the analytical side of her brain kicking in…but even that is fun to see, especially when it turns into the stream of consciousness mode that reveals exactly what is going on in her mind. To me, it is this kind of intimacy that is most interesting as it is rarely shared in this manner. When you grow to know a little about someone in this way it is only natural to care what is happening to them so then it all comes full circle…one ends up looking forward to knowing more about what is going on. In life, the beauty is so often in the little, subtle things that happen every day all around us, so even the small, simple things in her life are nice to see when they are shared. This is how you get to know someone on a deeper level although RLC is really not the best platform for this as her way of sharing is not encouraged. I don't know that much about Instagram but wouldn't it be possible to do something like a weekly video diary and just talk openly about whatever you feel like sharing? It could potentially include short videos of a festival or a bike ride or whatever was worth taking a video of that could be shared. It would also be nice to be able to offer direct feedback and support…but then that opens things up to every manner of opinion out there. I can see clearly that when Octavia is reading her texts how each one can affect her mood at least temporarily. The reality is, if you want feedback you will certainly get it and it won't all be nice…but then that is the nature of the world. Yin/Yang, opposites connected like two sides of a coin are always in play so love does not exist without hate and we certainly see that every day. So I hope she finds a way to keep sharing in some fashion but I can't help but think that there is a possibility she may experience more peace in her life with less social media involvement. (Something to consider?) I also hope that she finds the person that ticks the most boxes on the list she is making of the qualities she would like to find in a close relationship. What is important to understand is that real peace and contentment come from the absence of a sense of lack. Realize who you are is already complete and as that realization deepens it is just fun to share the excitement of life with another. If you are looking for someone to provide something you feel you are lacking it will never work. Thankfully she has said she is in no hurry which implies she is not needy which is a good first step. I certainly wish all the best for her in whatever she decides to do.
  4. OneBeing
    Octavia winding down after a long day out with some foot massage. She should check out a Foot Reflexology chart to see which parts of her body are represented by those painful areas of her right foot. It might be revealing. I couldn't help but laugh at the great faces she made when the unexpected pain hit.
  5. OneBeing
    This is fun stuff along with some nice, caring comments. I too have missed Octavia's talking and am glad she is still willing to share her feelings, and as you say, by sharing them, clarifying some things for herself in the process. I agree with your take on the guy buying outfits for Octavia and wanting to simulate underage sex. Combine that with Octavia's feelings of his role playing being “over the top” and that he is potentially borderline “mad” it seems pretty clear that this is even beyond a red flag…it is a barricade right in front of a bridge that has collapsed and if you don't stop quickly you will go over the edge. Octavia feels something is not right (a bit of an understatement) and she should trust those feelings in this case. There will be plenty of other opportunities to explore. She should let this one go. I am really happy to hear that she will celebrate her birthday with her ex as he is family for her and he sounds like a really good person as well…probably the best guy to spend her special day with. Happy Birthday Octavia! 🎂🎉💥 (Now cancel Tuesday with that other guy…who sounds like Mike on steroids).
  6. OneBeing
    I just noticed that Octavia has a copy of “Journey of Souls” in her room which is a book I mentioned in a previous post. She has started to read it and since it is in English I know it will be a bit of a challenge as it is a lot of material and will probably be slow going at first. Ultimately she will decide how to proceed reading it (or not) but I think it will be helpful to point out that the book is set up so that it is possible to skip around a bit and check out the case studies which I found to be the most interesting parts with the authors explanations adding further insights. I think there is a lot in this book that reinforces what she already feels intuitively and my hope is she finds it helpful. I felt that she would but If not, that is fine too. Everything has its time and place.
  7. OneBeing
    Previews are gone now too. There was a problem with the night vision on some cams in B1. It will be interesting to see if that gets fixed and whether any “lost” video reappears. It must be a bit of a logistical problem to keep everything up and running in all these apartments. I guess the occasional outage is to be expected.
  8. OneBeing
    Now B1 just went “under maintenance “. (The other apartments with outages did not). Strange that preview pics are still showing on every cam.
  9. OneBeing
    Was this at 2am this morning?
  10. OneBeing
    Yes, I just checked with RP and saw the same block of time with no video in several apartments as you mentioned.
  11. OneBeing
    Thanks to sigfried and TfiDeano for the replies. There were preview pictures and even a replay video of Octavia between 2 and 3am but when accessed showed video at 3:45 am instead. It is interesting to hear there were widespread crashes but having preview and replay images showing seems to indicate that video was successfully recorded. Would this be likely if there was a crash?
  12. OneBeing
    Video in B1 from 10:30pm through when Octavia got home at 2am until after 3am was cut off and then replaced with video starting at 3:45am on all cameras. Obviously something that RLC didn't like happened. You can still see the preview pictures from Octavia's room and it looked like she might have been in distress and possibly talking but it is hard to tell what was going on. Did anyone see it live before RLC changed everything?
  13. OneBeing
    Lol…now I know why you are called Stone Cold…not that there isn't some truth there.
  14. OneBeing
    I have to say that I really enjoy it when Octavia allows herself to go into stream of consciousness mode. I find her “craziness” to be very appealing and refreshing. I smile and laugh at the things she says and does (and sings) and personally appreciate the fact that she likes Queen songs…especially “Bohemian Rhapsody” and “Don't Stop Me Now” which could actually be her theme song…😁
  15. OneBeing
    It was a conversation with the guy from Dubai. His views are based on his upbringing in a very different culture from Octavia and are part of his agenda to try and get what he wants…which is Octavia. I think she mentioned in her conversation with her coach that he even asked her if she wanted to be his second wife? (Assuming the translation was accurate). This apparently did not appeal to her, nor should it knowing a bit about her nature. He definitely has a different way of looking at things which in my opinion would end up trying to suppress the open way that Octavia approaches life which I feel is much healthier. I think Octavia knows this and will ultimately not be a part of his plan to have them be some sort of couple…but at the same time she seems to enjoy his company and the game they are playing along with the debates they are having so this will probably continue in some way. She has said that she feels he has a good heart so I think she is doing her best to be his friend, to just have fun and try to help him out with his life without locking herself into something she will likely regret in the future. This sort of thing tends to be a bit tricky and complicated especially as he is also offering her a chance to travel with him to exotic places which appeals to her but ultimately it is still part of his agenda. She is smart enough to know all this so things may shift soon. She also has plans to see family and God Children in addition to 2 festivals so she will be quite involved with her own pursuits which should be fun for her.
  16. OneBeing
    Ha! Yes, that little voice in the head loves to think it knows what is happening. It is amazing how often it is wrong. Best not to take it too seriously as life has a mind of its own. 😉 She has mentioned going to visit her family plus there are now 2 festivals that she has tickets to. One is in Belgium at the end of June.
  17. OneBeing
    Well, she said not yet for the project so that is nice. She did say some time ago that she would still be there in June. As usual, we will just have to wait and see. I originally thought she would leave in July but I should probably stop guessing. 😁
  18. OneBeing
    It struck me as goodbye to both specific people and to the project. It is just a matter of when.
  19. OneBeing
    I understand your point of view and why it is better for you to end your time on RLC. It is frustrating when there is emotional involvement without the ability to do much about it but your desire to help and add emotional support for someone when they appear to suffer is a quality that is much needed in this life. It is nice to see that you have this quality and it was also nice to share these thoughts. Take care and enjoy your time outside in the spring weather!
  20. OneBeing
    I appreciate that Frank. Thanks for yours as well.
  21. OneBeing
    People are who they are and do what they do based on their genetic makeup and the conditioning they have received from many sources throughout their life. There is no right or wrong until somebody makes a judgement based on their own concept (just thoughts) of how things ought to be instead of accepting that life unfolds exactly as it should and has been doing for millions of years according to Cosmic Law. Yes, society makes rules and as a result there are consequences to actions that go against what society deems acceptable so it is wise to follow guidelines but it is helpful to have compassion for what happens rather than trying to place blame somewhere because whatever happens could not have been otherwise. RLC is what it is. Take it or leave it, it's fine. Watch it or cancel, no problem, but to say it should be different than what it is makes no sense. It is the private lives of other people who are put into a very artificial environment with special rules and what we see is an attempt to live life while having to deal with all that comes with these unusual circumstances. I have interacted with RLC a few times over the years but have never been as interested as I am now after having “met” Octavia. I continue to find her very unique, interesting and refreshing because she is as open and honest as anyone I have seen on the site. Yes, she does play with things within the “rules” and her behavior evolves and changes the longer she lives in this environment but it's all OK. Lets face it…this situation is a temporary stop in the lives of most of the people in these houses. I think in Octavia's case she has experienced a lot of new and exciting things, grown as a person, and will soon “outgrow” RLC and move on. I will miss her.
  22. OneBeing
    It was very nice to hear Octavia's thoughts today and see how honesty and clear thinking have prevailed following her night out. She appears to have a fairly realistic view of the situation with the man from Dubai and it seems that perhaps their way of relating has evolved in a healthier way (more open and truthful?) while she still sees the potential issues involved…not the least of which are the cultural differences as they relate to how women are viewed in his part of the world and the fact that while they have communicated a lot over time they have still not spent much time together. I think it is fortunate that both of them have plans that will keep things at a slower pace for now since what he wants involves such a major life decision. As Octavia has mentioned, a recurring theme in her life has been the feeling of wanting to go fast🚴🚙😁 but I think circumstances are such right now that she can really start to relax and slow down as she has many cool plans in the near future with festivals, family visits and the interesting boy from the gym to get to know so that there is no need to feel urgency about anything. As she says…she is fine…so relax in that and enjoy what is happening.
  23. OneBeing
    Yes…it will be interesting to see what happens. It is clear from how she got ready to go that she is fully prepared to ignore all the red flags she brought up in her Sunday conversation. We shall see if she perceives him as a “changed man” or if the flags re-appear. With Octavia, once the adrenaline starts running the common sense seems to fade to the background. Where will it take her this time? There is no doubt about one thing. There will be more lessons to be learned here.
  24. OneBeing
    That was a really nice talk in Octavia's room on Sunday evening. She has certainly re-affirmed that she is a smart, insightful person that is learning a lot from the various events taking place in her life. She has seen that even though some so-called negative things can seem to pile up and drain her energy that these things will eventually pass and can even be purged by a good day at the gym, when a vigorous workout can re-focus attention and cause energy to shift. It even made me think that perhaps she should have a good workout on the same day as her next drivers test which might help to burn off her nervous energy and allow her to be more calm and relaxed while driving. (It just can't be at 8AM 😆). It's fun to see her excited about meeting a new person and important to notice that she realizes while thoughts and feelings will continue to arise and try to bring to life some positive fantasies or expectations about what might happen (it's OK to have these…you can't actually stop them) she is seeing them for what they are. Just thoughts and feelings that you can enjoy for a moment while knowing not to take them seriously. (She even said “don't go there girl”…so she knows). Just wait and see what happens. Be open and willing to be surprised. She is getting it…which is not easy when you are as open as she is and in a super sensitive body that feels everything to the extreme which can be overwhelming at times. It's a lot to handle but she is learning to deal with it. Best not to drown in stories from the past or fantasies about the future but focus on what is in front of you right now since that's all you can do anything about.
  25. OneBeing
    Ha! Great song! The original lyrics have two of my all time favorite lines. “They say I'm lazy but it takes all my time” and “I can't complain but some times I still do.” These certainly apply to my life and I'd venture a guess that the second one is relevant to all. Octavia was on the phone earlier and someone she knew came on and apparently asked how she was. Octavia said I'm fine…and then said well, actually I'm having a hard time…While not really complaining it's a great example of how right in this moment all is well but if I think about what happened recently in the past I am having a hard time. I can't complain but some times I still do…
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