I understand you don't want recordings published, you/rlc has the copyright to this. However if you let the whole world watch your apartment/lives 24/7, then you should expect there to be invasion of privacy and rights. After all, that's the whole point of the rlc site.
I think you should discuss with the rlc team the posiibility of publishing your own videos straight from the rlc site. For example let users decide what is worth recording, and then have those videos published in the members section. I think a good deal of why recording are published is because poeple feel they missed important parts.
Now, it seems the recording illegally published here are mostly the sex things, but also consider reading the interest in your party when poeple started. Then your friends made into a sex fest which I thought was a shame. Most couples onn the site don't do anything interesting, like most poepe at home. Now you come along and bring some actual entetainment with music and singing. Then somehow a few days later all that interesting is the sex, which I personally could care less about since there are way cheaper options for that.
Short conclusion: Expect there te be invasion of privacy, if you can't deal with that, stay away. If you can, then please give poeple something to watch besides the sex. Also consider monetising on publishing your own high quality recordings. You as a couple could turn the site around in make a name for yourself with high quality music/entertainment recordings for example.