hotdamn, dude if your ex wrecked ya that much (and it's understood) it's a good thing a person of another ethnic group or "race" didn't hurt you. Of course, the ex's thing was massive and you had a part in it also but I'm no shrink, ever wonder why they're called shrinks? lol.
enjoy her company without the transference bit. If you're not joking be careful this could happen to ya
notice how he turns orange then...lol