Even though you're not one of the fluffy tailed woodland creatures or that fat stupid orange cat that hangs around here. I am sure she has a place in her heart ♥ for you too.
I think she's trying to find an old Pepe re-run to help her sleep. I would offer to buy her a little stuffed Pepe doll to cuddle with if it would help.
Trust me when I tell you this he has no real control over her. What she does is her decision. You can't expect her to perform on demand when you think she should. She will when she's in the mood do what she does best.
Imho when she starts baiting every day that feels staged. Let it be natural as natural as it can be.
Also what you see her doing and her whole demeanor is why she doesn't do it while he's home. She feels more carefree.
This extra that she does is what makes her special.