WOW! Okay, wasn't expecting that reaction on here at all. There is a lot of talk about morality, so please tell me, who decides on the morality in these situations? I heard religion mentioned and then discounted, so it can't be God that is being used as a moral compass, so who then? Society? And if so, how would society view our own moral compasses paying for and viewing other people having sex??
Now, I have to admit in having an interest as I am also a swinger and yes, married. There was a statement made to the effect that this was wrong even to swingers, really? Well, I must be wrong also, but I tell you, it feels good to be wrong!
What decisions you make are the product of a life times information that flows into your brains, that and only that determines whether your moral compass thinks this is right or wrong. But, and its a big but, what you think is immoral, maybe perfectly moral to someone else. This happens in every thought process we make, what we think is a wrong decision other think and know that it was the only decision that could be made. Whether you are a chef or a soldier, these decisions can directly impact other people.
So long as the people concerned are not being hurt, humiliated (without consent) or deceived AND so long as their is mutual trust, boundaries have been agreed (if any) and that no laws of the country are broken, then people should be free to live their lives in what ever manner they choose.
And what gives us the right to criticize them?
Turning briefly back to religion, which is held up as being the last bastion of morality, The Bible teaches us in John 8:7:
The Woman Caught in Adultery…6They said this to test Him, in order to have a basis for accusing Him. But Jesus bent down and began to write on the ground with His finger. 7When they continued to question Him, He straightened up andsaid to them, “Whoever is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone at her.” 8And again He bent down and wrote on the ground.…
Or perhaps these quotes would also give you food for thought:
Matthew 7:1Do not judge, or you will be judged. Romans 2:1You therefore have no excuse, you who pass judgment on another. For on whatever grounds you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things.