Unlike so much of this forum, I am not going to ditz Paul. Instead, here's a little encouragement. Your on the right track, today's sex session was better then most, and I'm beginning to think that Leora's inability to have an orgasm during sex is actually her problem and not yours.
You're learning old boy, and that's the most anybody can ask of us, keep at it, and keep learning. The only thing I would suggest, when she decided that was it (during 69), and you should penetrate, ignore her and keep going until she orgasms. Trust me, women become a lot more sensitive once they've orgasm'd and i doubt any psychological issues would prevent her from doing so during actual sex at that point.