In spite of what you guys may think of her, to my knowledge, she is a sweet, highly motivated person. All is not what it seems. And to your point, ddhm, you do not know until you actually meet the person. If I were to refer to my own failed marriage, I would say that my ex and I had many hostile arguments. There was no physical argument (she was a s big as me, LOL), but there were very incendiary comments on both sides. Today we are ok with each other, but the point is, being in love with someone and devoting your life to them can be very difficult. I'm sure everyone understands. But, for Kitty and even for Smith's sake, I hope they can overcome the obstacles they encounter. I wish none bad will, ever, but I do wish for all to have peace in their lives.