In one of Jimbo4's videos Leora was watching porn, in clear view of the camera. It was a MFF threesome that she was masturbating to. The guy came inside one woman who then stood on the bed with her legs spread as the other woman licked the creampie. That was when Leora came herself. What they should do is each pick the porn genre that turns them on the most and share it in bed during a sex session. Perhaps mimicking the movie scenes would help each one understand the other's "buttons" better.
I believe you are right on about Leora being "too bossy and controlling". Even back in the original apartment, I never saw Paul give her an orgasm. She almost always has to finish herself, often pushing Paul's hand or face out of the way of her fingers. I've seen Paul lay there with a "what the fuck am I here for anyway?" expression more times than I can count. This especially happened in the apartment they had when the Russians shut the feed down.
She appears to me to be a blend of two dysfunctional women I've known. One had a Napoleon complex (little man syndrome) which made her very jealous/distrustful and gave her the need to be in control of all things, including her partner (me). Everything was wonderful so long as I didn't test the edges of the box she had me in, which often meant acquiring a female friend (platonic only, I didn't screw around) that she didn't know.
The other was a conflict of what she said she enjoyed vs what actually turned her on. She said she didn't like tasting herself or my semen, but the times she did, she came harder and longer. I believe Leora is the opposite ... she appears to like her and Paul's juices, but I suspect that's more a tolerance than enjoyment. Otherwise, she'd be tasting herself during the cleanup phase following a masturbation, and eating Paul's cum that didn't make it into her mouth. Also, she and Malia would have gotten much more personal with each other, if Leora truly liked the taste of pussy. Gotta say, she's an entertainer first and foremost.
It does appear to me that Leora's and Paul's interactions are more open now. Paul has always struck me as sexually inhibited, likely because of feelings of possible inadequacy. If he had a sexual girlfriend while apart from Leora, that diversity may be part of the reason he is more willing to experiment now. He does appear to be more relaxed during intimacy and not so quick to jump up and wash himself afterward.