Trust me, I see couples who are only in the lifestyle thinking it will save their marriage and wind up getting divorced. It's not that the men find another mate in the group that kills the marriage .. most I have seen try the lifestyle only after the marriage is irrevocably broken.. And the lifestyle brings that out rather quickly. I live part of the year in Las Vegas and live a somewhat swingers life, but only because I have a married lover who takes me. Single men are not allowed in the two groups where I belong.
I met this beautiful Asian woman at the gym and her husband lives in another part of the country taking care of his very old mother. He sees his wife only twice a year so her and I spend lots of time together.