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Thank you rammer and I apologize if I annoy you. That is not my intention just an unfortunate consequence. It is Tuesday night and often Belle is away until the middle of the next day. And remember that room how to add camera problems to the last 3 days. pity about the light though although it is better than Karol's. Mind you I can't see very well and I'm having to dictate all this so please forgive any mistakes that the speech recognition causes. I get new glasses next week.
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Rammer. Why should I put you on ignore. You argue in a perfectly civilised manner. My point is that you can ignore what I say. Will be no great loss to you I'm sure. If you notice My Belle has been the Top Cam most of this afternoon. She's not dancing in the shower which is why I am not mentioning it but every time I mentioned iher before she was giving great views and doing what I said. Many posts on here annoy me.I am certainly not going to stop because people do not like what I say. Besides which I promised to leave this thread when Belle left ana I did.
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Why not and you can put me ignore. that is what the ignore is for. I have at least 20 people on my list. I tell people this time and time again. 23 posts cover 1.5 pages not 5 by the way. When I joined that is exactly what many on here did about Kami and Kirsty or don't you remember those days. Of course I maybe post in big writing 2 or 3 times a day. Obviously this is too much for some people who regard it as a big part of the lives.
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Psychologize (v.): Analyze or regard in psychological terms, especially in an uninformed way. Theorize or speculate concerning the psychology of someone. Just some help for any other amatuer psychologists on the board Still, it’s worth asking: What’s the alternative? Not wondering and guessing at each other’s feelings and motivations seems out of the question. It may be diplomatic never to mention what we’re guessing but it verges on patronizing, as if others are too sensitive to hear our guesses. But as one who tends to psychologize aloud too often, here are few guidelines I try to live by: It’s not rocket science. Newton said, “I can calculate the motions of heavenly bodies, but not the madness of people.” Psychology is not rocket science. It’s harder—harder to do with any kind of precision, anyway. When speculating, speculate. Don’t pretend you have a power to calculate greater than Newton’s. Caveat cleanly. If you’re in the touchy territory of telling people what you guess might be going on with them, let them know that it’s a guess through caveats like “I think that maybe...”, “I’m wondering if…”, or “It seems to me…” Be careful with pejoratives and when you use them, don’t pretend you aren’t. Plenty of clinical-sounding terms are also pejoratives. Take narcissist, for example, a term both diagnostic and insulting. Or consider John Gottman’s famous "four horsemen of the (relationship) apocalypse"—criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness. One can claim that these are simple descriptive terms for independent variables conducive to marriage failure. But just try describing your spouse as employing any of these four techniques. Actually, don’t; try to find more neutral words. And if you can’t, then don’t pretend they have no pejorative connotations. Don’t caveat dirtily. Next of kin to such words as “just” and “only” are little preambles we think can sugarcoat what follows: “I don’t mean to be critical, but I think you’re procrastinating"; or, “With all due respect, I think you’re lying.” It’s not credible to caveat like that; it’s insulting. If you want to say, “With all due respect…” follow it with “…I’ll let you decide whether I’m showing you due respect.” Don’t think you can commandeer someone else's interpretation. Take in as you dish out. Dirty caveats reveal a double standard, “I’m going to tell you all about your motives, but don’t dare try to tell me mine. I’ll tell you mine, too.” In general, if you can’t take other people psychologizing you, don’t psychologize them, at least not aloud. Throw two stones. When you throw a stone at another glass house, toss one your way, too. Too often, when we guess at each other's motives critically, the first thing to fly out of our minds is any recollection of every having done whatever we’re critical of them doing. We must actively counteract that tendency, not with some vague, “Of course, I do it, too,” but recollection of specific times when we did it in spades. Minimize leaping. There will be times when you have to leap to a conclusion about someone’s motives and feelings; for example if you find evidence that your spouse is cheating or your business partner is embezzling. In such situations, the leap is appropriate. You need its urgency for damage control; for example, locking down bank accounts before you’re further fleeced. Otherwise, leaping is dangerous and likely an expression of fear and other distorting emotions in you, not reflective of some sudden change in the psychology of the person you’re analyzing. Speaking your mind is optional. This one has always been hard for me, which is why I study tongue-biting friends. I can think whatever I want, and I can make whatever guesses I want about what drives people. But I don’t have to share those guesses, and when I do, it’s probably more “note to self” than to them. If I were to psychologize my own motives, I’d say that I share in part because I don’t trust that I’ll be able to resist the sway of their motives unless I call them on them. But increasingly, I’m learning to let them have their motives in peace.
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Yes well My Belle is here and was giving a very fine display which I want to encourage just like people encourage the other girls like Karol last night. Nobody else is here and I hadn't post for more than 20 minutes. The girls do read this board. I like Belle so I let her know I'm enjoying what she is doing. If she excites me I say so. Reading in any more than that, especially when others have a very great degree of close contact via social media and I have no idea what they are writing on there and nor do I care and nor should of you, is just ridiculous. If my posts are bothering people they all know they can switch to ignore. Whey don't they? I leave you to work that out. Yes it appears on the main page but I can't help that nor can I help a guy who sees 1 and then sees how many more he can count. Nor can I help that a certain member hates me and will probably do anything to get rid of me and Belle when he was the person who used to post every 2 minutes of his love for Kristy and Kami and what's more all they were doing was lying on the sofa in the underwear. Belle is doing a lot more entertaining and people as shown in the Replay league happen to like it. So I say to you all speak up for your girls and never lat anyone intimidate you from being yourself.
