He did lose control 7-8 weeks ago. Often the woman (and more often than you'd think the man) brush off these incidents in their hands but I knew a woman with that ridiculous forgiving attitude and all I can say is that it ended very badly indeed. Nothing I could have said would have changed her belief.
What I would add is that relationships are complex and of course they are people in controlling relationship but then only properly work when the person being controlled is actually in control, if you know what a mean, so I wouldn't demonise very controlling relationship. We are right to mention patterns but only if you have camera on the people 24/7 then it's difficult to judge, and even then it is difficult to judge. I am just writing about relationships in general and not this one in particular.