This sounds an ideal situation to me. I've found that many women either don't, or won't, tell you what they want you to do, orally at least and sometimes vaginally as well.
They murmour their approval of what you're doing and say what they like, or don't like, about your actions, but seldom do they volunteer information on an exact course of action they'd like you to take, as if doing so is akin to asking or telling you something that might dis-empower you, or something.
Slow down! speed up! softer! harder! sure, no problems in getting that kind of feedback, but requesting certain procedures is much less forthcoming.
I think a lot of women like their man to know what he's doing, without asking, and admire them the more by how much they know about pleasing them.
It's a double-edged sword in some ways as there's a lot of insecurity coming in play here. If the man asks what the woman wants, she may feel he's not completely in charge and therefore less masterful or attractive to them in some way, but how will a man gain those valuable insights without soaking up ideas from their woman?
We know every woman's needs are different and that no man can be so expert as to believe that he has all the answers and can simply treat them all in the same way.
So, if you're receiving their full guidance on how to proceed in pleasing them, Pied Piper, rather than having those women seeing that honest approach as weakening your ego, or emasculating you, then you're indeed fortunate.
Having them tell you what they really want rather than expecting you to know and act accordingly, is a huge benefit for both of you.
And yes I do enjoy the giving part of it, as much as the taking; it only leads to even more satisfaction for both of us, in the final wash-up.