For those moaning about Trump losing.
The 5 Stages of Grief in a Nutshell
Grief can take three different courses:
– a normal grief response
– a difficult long-term (four years) process of healing and readjustment
– a pathological response when it is denied, delayed or distorted
1.Denial
To help us survive the loss and make sense of this overwhelming shock in or lives. We can begin to feel numb to the loss and try not to feel what has happened as a way to cope or to slow down the absorbing and processing of such a painful experience. As denial fades a person becomes stronger to face the realities of the grief causing event.
2.Anger
The more we allow ourselves to journey through anger and feel it, the easier it will be to get through to the next stage in the grieving process and be closer to healing. We may begin to ask where God is in this as we experience the pain of our loss. Grief can feel like being abandoned, deserted or even lost at sea. We can begin directing our anger at all sorts of people. In time anger becomes easier to manage as we begin to process this stage of our loss.
3.Bargaining
At this point we begin trying to bargain with God to make changes. E.g. “if you do this God, I will change that and never sin again.” or “I will sign up for missions if you spare my friend or loved one.” We can begin to live in the ‘what ifs’ looking to avoid the pain of our loss or injury or in an attempt to rescue our loved. Then the ‘If onlys’ can lead us to blame ourselves and to seek out those things which we could have done better. This stage is about negotiating our way out of the pain.
4.Depression
At this stage we can experience grief, intense sadness and emptiness on a more profound level. This is the appropriate response to great loss and may begin to feel like it will never go away. We may begin to withdraw from any social activities and from the activities we normally participate in during our daily lives. This is a very necessary step towards healing and is not deemed a mental illness but a natural, essential and progressive response to loss.
5.Acceptance
We may never be okay with the loss of a loved one. This stage is not about liking what has happened. But rather about reaching an acceptance of the permanence and reality of our loss. Eventually we will learn to live our lives as a readjustment to life without our loved one. We can also experience a range of emotions including guilt. Feelings may also go up and down through the various stages of grief.