This IS their life. Psychologically, it makes sense. Some old, retired men that have nothing to live for decide to act like they are still in grade school because their mommies didn't let them look at girls when they were little boys so they decide to act out that frustration here. Kind of it in a nutshell.
It's all about power. They have none, so they come here and pretend they have power over a woman who must comply to their wims so she can live her life.
Linda, I hope you read this, because this is exactly the situation.