I think you are reading way too much into all this...plus, you have some things wrong.
1. As far as I know, Ann wasn't in The Netherlands. She was in Norway.
2. I don't think her boyfriend is pressuring her to change her cam habits...except, maybe, to get her to do more on cam. From what I've seen, he is very tolerant, accomodating and supportive of her.
3. Regardless that other person and his on-cam obsession of her, as long as he doesn't knock on her door, she'll be okay.
4. I don't think I've ever seen Ann hide anything she's done on her computer from her boyfriend, so I think you are way out in left field with your "sneaking" thing.
But hey...we are all entitled to our opinions.