Thank you, but overall I would much rather have my wife back in my life. Although, I must tell you she was the one that first suggested anal in our sex life. She absolutely loved it and often we would put a dildo in her pussy and my dick in her ass. She was a farmers daughter and grew up watching the animals fuck and once told me how it turned her on. A wonderful woman, great mother and wife and the best sex I have ever had.
As an FYI, it was extremely difficult to penetrate the swinger community as a single man. You are generally not as welcome. I moved into a 55 plus community and met some widowed women who then took me to the sessions/ meetings. Only in this way was I welcome. Now I have many single/ widowed women. I could get laid more now than when I was younger if I wanted to go that route. There are many widows in the 55 community who will tell you, post menopausal, they are hornier, but have more difficulty getting lubricated so KY is on hand all the time.
Sorry for the rant.