Aussie_oi_oi Posted July 20, 2021 Share Posted July 20, 2021 Poor Maila..... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aussie_oi_oi Posted July 22, 2021 Share Posted July 22, 2021 What Are The 7 Stages of Grief? Here is the grief model we call the 7 Stages of Grief: 1. Shock & Denial You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. The shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks. This type of grief is probably one of the biggest and most important stages that people go through once they start processing through the stages of grief after suicide. Examples of emotions during this stage of grief: Mourning Sadness Confusion Discomfort 2. Pain & Guilt As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs. You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn’t do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase. Out of all the stages of grief after an affair, this is the one that might be most prevalent because realization sets in that their choice was something that could have been prevented and stopped and that this suffering and pain were preventable. Examples of emotions during this stage of grief: Sadness Guilt Desperation Betrayed 3. Anger & Bargaining Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is not a time for the release of bottled-up emotion. You may rail against fate, questioning “Why me?” You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair: “I will never drink again if you just bring him back”! Depending on if you’re ready for grief counseling, this is a step that it might be a good choice to look into. Examples of emotions during this stage of grief: Anger Resentment Bargaining Stubbornness 4. “Depression”, Reflection, Loneliness Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be “talked out of it” by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving. During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair. Examples of emotions during this stage of grief: Depression Heavy Crushed Frustrated 5. The Upward Turn As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your “depression” begins to lift slightly. This is the part of the grieving process that you’ll start to see the light a bit at the end of the tunnel. It’s a middle ground of all the grief symptoms that you’ll go through but it’s one that you can build upon. Examples of emotions during this stage of grief: Strengthened Motivated Awakened 6. Reconstruction & Working Through As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her. Examples of emotions during this stage of grief: Inspired Determined Refreshed 7. Acceptance & Hope During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward. You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Slipper Guyquad Posted July 22, 2021 Share Posted July 22, 2021 She's a lot better now thankfully and contact is now more friendly. But what happens from hereon in, who knows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aussie_oi_oi Posted July 23, 2021 Share Posted July 23, 2021 Maila we can all see your pain hopefully this video brings a smile to your face. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Slipper Guyquad Posted July 26, 2021 Share Posted July 26, 2021 Been impressed with bits of stuff Little Star has listened to recently. But - Despite the undeniable quality of these songs (And they are a couple of classics, both from '69).... Malia! You're listening to bad cover versions!! NO NEED TO! Listen to the originals instead - So much better! ⭐ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aussie_oi_oi Posted August 2, 2021 Share Posted August 2, 2021 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicholas Posted August 6, 2021 Share Posted August 6, 2021 Here is a really nice song sung by someone who was a really good song writer and singer that Malia might enjoy but probably has never heard, but I hope she does happen to occasionally notice what gets posted in these threads, and in particular notices and listens to this little gem of a song because to an extent it seems to somewhat apply to her: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aussie_oi_oi Posted August 7, 2021 Share Posted August 7, 2021 Here's Malia song.... from the band Australian Crawl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aussie_oi_oi Posted August 7, 2021 Share Posted August 7, 2021 Malia sleeping with her teddy bear. When was the last time Leora slept with her beloved Koala? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brokk! Posted August 7, 2021 Share Posted August 7, 2021 2 hours ago, Aussie_oi_oi said: Malia sleeping with her teddy bear. When was the last time Leora slept with her beloved Koala? It will be like a year or so. However a long time. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aussie_oi_oi Posted August 7, 2021 Share Posted August 7, 2021 7 minutes ago, Brokk! said: It will be like a year or so. However a long time. Damn it the Koala has needs too!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicholas Posted August 17, 2021 Share Posted August 17, 2021 These comments are for you if you ever happen to check here and notice them Malia. There are quite a number of people that became quite fond of you and admired you for different reasons Malia. You are certainly quite an attractive woman with a wonderful personality that many who have been fortunate enough to share a part of your life will not forget. I wish you all the fortune and happiness in your life that you deserve. I wish you were staying and it would certainly be an admirable pleasure to ever be fortunate enough to ever see you again. I wish you the best that life has to offer. 😘 4 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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